Farewell and thank you

Dear friends and listeners,

It is with regret that today I have to break the news that, due to my life commitments and external circumstances, I am no longer able to collaborate with Real Coaching Radio and Coach Steve Toth as Co-Host of the International Mind, Body and Soul show.

This is a year of major change for me. For starters, I have now entered the countdown phase of leaving my adopted home and beautiful island of tranquility (Madeira) in exchange for opening the Holistic Retreat in Sicily. The move requires a lot of planning and a lot of trips off the island, since I have belongings here and in the UK that need to be packed and shipped. The logistics are already taking their toll.

In addition to this, I am focusing a lot of time and energy in promoting the retreat, as you can all appreciate, it is hard enough to get an Internet business running let alone how very time consuming it is to get a new physical business off the ground and there are some areas of the development that are going through the construction phase, which requires my presence. (More trips off the island).

As if this wasn’t enough, I am still in the phase of finishing writing my books and my Masters Degree. For the latter, I have to start writing my Thesis, which is also in book format. The research alone requires enormous amounts of my time.

I have very much enjoyed my time spent at Real Coaching Radio and thank Coach Steve for letting me run riot in his show. My thanks to my friends at TGAMM as well for their support.

Christmas Special

On Thursday 27th December, Host Coach Steve Toth and myself Co-Host Drª Venerina Conti broadcast a special holiday season show of the International Mind, Body and Soul Show on Real Coaching Radio.

The topic of conversation was the festive season.

One of the points raised was how Christmas, having lost its true meaning nowadays, has become an extraordinarily beneficial time for trade and commerce as people try to outspend each other. It is the one time of year when people will often get themselves into so much debt, they might pass the next 6 months to a year paying that debt off.

With starvation reaching all times highs in the world, have you ever stopped to think about just how much money is overspent “haphazardly” at Christmas and New Year? How much of that is on food? And, out of all that purchased food, how much is thrown away? How much is actually wasted? Have you ever stopped to wonder how many billions of tons of food are wasted every year over the three day period of Christmas Eve, Christmas Day and Boxing Day?

Real Coaching Radio is launching a campaign to combat hunger. Find out how by tuning into our show and check out the information on our website: http://www.realcoachingradio.com/

Another holiday favourite that was mentioned during the conversation was stress. People stress themselves out in so many different ways over Christmas and New Year because they feel so many diverse types of pressures coming at them from all around. There’s the pressure to be something someone’s not; there’s the pressure to live up to others’ expectations; there’s the pressure of acceptance, compliance and so forth and so on. Of course, for some, this time of year may be when they feel the pressure of being most alone in the world with no-one to share with.

Why should we work ourselves up into such a frenzy for the sake of a couple of days a year?

Stress is one of the biggest causes of all kinds of depressions at this time of year. It can even reach levels that prove dangerous for the body. Stress can be a killer. So, how can you beat the holidays blues? The stress? The sadness? How can you be less alone at this time of year?

Christmas is meant to be a time of compassion, love and brotherhood; a time when kindness, smiles, warmth and hugs should be abundant. But why should this one day a year be the excuse people need to remember to employ these qualities. Or do they employ them?

It seems to me that … we’ve forgotten something very valuable along the way.

Have a peaceful, joyous and love filled New Year and may these feelings persist throughout the whole of 2008.
Namaste

Venerina
http://www.villavalview.com/

Self Sabotage

On Thursday 6th December, Host Coach Steve Toth and myself Co-Host Dr Venerina Conti, of the Mind, Body and Soul show on the Real Coaching Radio Network, discussed the topic of self sabotage.

What is self sabotage? How does it hold us back? How does it make us our own worst enemy?

Self sabotage happens when we impede ourselves from doing something that we would like to do, or ought to be doing, by letting everything around us get in the way. For example, if we dream of becoming a great painter, so we could establish ourselves in the Artists’ world and maybe have our own exhibitions, painting something every day would help us to improve our skills.

However, if we allowed everything else to get in the way like: being too tired, not having enough time or whatever excuse we choose to use, then we are acting in a way that sabotages our hopes, wishes and dreams, which eventually we will give up on. We have nobody to blame but ourselves. Time does not just occur. Time needs to be created.

We have willingly diverted our attention and focus away from what is important to us. We have made up excuses and found every reason not to be doing what we would like to be doing. But are there underlying reasons for this behaviour? Does self-sabotage go deeper than we imagine? Where exactly is it rooted?

Self-sabotage starts with internal dialogues. Think about this. We are the one person we talk to all day long, ever day, and we are the one and only person we will know all our lives, so why then do we choose to talk to ourselves in such a negative way? Why do we convince ourselves that we are not good enough? Why do we talk ourselves into states of insecurity and destroy our own self-confidence.

If your best friend came to you and asked for your advice, you would show them support and offer them encouragement. So why is it so hard to be your own best friend? Are you not the most important person in your life? If you are not, then you should be because if you are not feeling well and are not capable of taking good care of yourself, then how can you possibly make others feel good or even look after them?

So, how do you talk to yourself all day long? Think about what words you choose to use in your internal dialogues? How do you transmit your being to the world around you?

Rather than focusing on the negative, think about all the good qualities you have. Feel grateful for all the good things you have achieved. Doing a little is better than doing nothing. If you doing something then you can never fail. Be realistic when you set yourself goals. Take one step at a time and do not expect to conquer Rome in one day. Disappointment and self sabotage also come from expecting too much of one’s self.

Keep a journal, (for your eyes only), where you can write everything down. Show gratitude for what you have. Clearly express in writing what you would like to have and achieve.

Learn to appreciate yourself. How? … Listen in to the exercise Coach Steve Toth and Drª Venerina Conti did, live on air. It takes one minute to change how you feel about yourself and who you will become in the future. Tune into the Mind, Body and Soul Show every Thursday at 8am MST, 3pm GMT.

Mind, Body & Soul - Judgment and Criticism

After the thanksgiving re-run and special edition of the Mind, Body and Soul show, with contributions from our outer space friends concerned about how they can develop their bodies, things returned to normal this Thursday at 3pm GMT, (8am MST), for Real Coaching Radio’s International Show.

Host Coach Steve Toth and myself Co-Host Drª Venerina Conti talked about Criticism and Judgment. What they are. What their distinction is. How they are defined and how we use them against ourselves, others and our relationships towards others.

Not all criticism is bad. There is such a thing as constructive criticism, which can be beneficial for our own self-improvement.

When we persistently stand in judgment of ourselves and persistently criticise ourselves we become our own worst enemies. We stop seeing the wood for the trees. We run ourselves into the ground until one day we find we have no self-confidence left. So, we retreat into our comfort zone and avoid anything challenging.

Do we judge others because of our own fears? Do we criticise others because it makes us feel better about who we are or because it makes us feel superior to another human being? The truth is strip away what we do, our roles in society, our status and the whole of the physical world, we are all equals.

Our souls are pure love. Only when we acknowledge this love for ourselves will we find that we no longer need to judge or criticise because everything we need to feel good about ourselves is contained within us already. When we love ourselves, we can love others and be accepting of them the way they are.

The time and energy that we spend on judging and criticising is misplaced time and energy that we could be spending on something constructive, creative and productive that pushes us forward in our lives.

How do you react to judgment and criticism? Find out how you can deal with it without letting it affect you. Listen to our live broadcast from Thursday 29th November on Mind, Body and Soul at Real Coaching Radio.

Until next week,
Namaste

Dr. Venerina Conti, (Holistic Psychologist) and Coach Steve Toth (Executive Director)
www.villavalview.com

How to overcome fear

In a continuum from last Thursday’s topic of conversation on the Mind, Body & Soul show at Real Coaching Radio about the “I’m not good enough” syndrome and how it holds us back in life, this week Host Coach Steve Toth and myself, Co-Host Dtª Venerina Conti, talked about the subject of “Fear”.

What is fear? How many types of fears are there? What are you afraid of? How do you deal with your fears? How are you held back by your fears? How can you overcome them and finally achieve what really matters to you.

Did you know that fear is one of the biggest killers in the world? According to an American study, carried out some time ago, 80% of people who were bitten by snakes did not die through the presence of venom in their system. Rather, they died from elevated quantities of adrenalin that caused them to suffer a heart attack.

There are many types of fear. Fear of aging, fear of death, fear of failure, failure of not getting the desired job, fear of success, fear of losing control, fear of not seeming appropriate, fear of not fitting in, fear of rejection and fear of losing love among others. There is even such a state as fear of fear.

The question is how does one judge failure and success? How do you judge it and subsequently how do you judge yourself because of it?

If you ceased to judge yourself negatively and stopped having negative internal dialogues with yourself and just took a quiet moment to search inside, you may find that almost all of your fears are just states of mind that you have created and turned into your own reality.

However, if you scratch past the surface and delve deeper in your inner being, you will probably find that most of your fears have no real foundations nor can they really be justified.

Listen in to our broadcast on the Real Coaching Radio widget and find out how you can begin to look at your fears, acknowledge them and finally learn to let go of them.

Namaste and have a wonderful week

Venerina and Coach Steve

The Slavers - Richard Brinton Interview

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“The Slavers is out”!!!

On Wednesday 14th November, Host Coach Steve Toth of Real Coaching Radio interviewed Mr Richard Brinton about his book “The Slavers”. Myself, co-Host of the Mind, Body and Soul show, Drª Venerina Conti, was honoured to be present at the interview for two main reasons:

I am priviledged to be on the front cover of Richard’s book
Richard has been a wonderful friend of mine for a couple of years now.

A part from Richard Brinton giving us a sneak preview into his new book, “The Slavers”, the interview was an amazing hour long journey that unfolded the global history of slavery spanning roughly 6,000 years. From the Greeks to the Romans, from the Trans-Atlantic to nowadays, why was slavery so popular? What conditions did these people suffer? How did it affect whole civilizations?

Did you know that there is more white slavery going on in the world today than the Trans-Atlantic slave trade ever had even at the height of its peak?

Did you know that slavery is not a situation that is only related to African or black people?

Did you know that child slavery is still in existence nowadays?

How financially viable was slavery? And how is it so nowadays still?

Richard had listeners’ full attention as he shared his profound knowledge of this underlying theme in his new book. A theme that we should all pay attention to as it affects us directly. The way we live, the way we are towards others and the way we perceive our past could all be changed if we listen closely and dig a little deeper.

If you missed this amazing interview, look through the Real Coaching Radio widget and scroll down to “THE SLAVERS – Richard Brinton” and listen in. It’s a story as old as time and a lesson that we still have not learnt. Truly an interview not to be missed.

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Mind, Body & Soul - "I'm not good enough"

Thursday 8th November, Real Coaching Radio’s Host Coach Steve Toth and myself Co-Host, Holistic Psychologist, Dr. Venerina Conti brought to our listeners a topic that is at the heart of many people’s failures in life and that is the “I’m not good enough syndrome”.

Where does that syndrome come from? Are you willing to find out? Are you ready to face it and move on?

You do realize that the only person stopping you from becoming who you want to be and doing what you want to do in life is you, don’t you?

Are you one of the millions of people who think that they are not good enough just because you think you are not pretty enough or clever enough or thin enough or whatever fears, doubts and issues that may lay secretly in the back of your mind and ingrained in your soul?

Have you ever stopped to really think about whether these complexes are truly yours or whether they are just others’ opinions that you have come to accept as reality. Remember, the more someone says something to you, the more you think about it, the more you think about it, the more you believe it and soon, before you know it, you have acquired a new reality in your subconscious upon which you base your actions and create the world around you.

This is not who you are though. Who you are is a spiritual being with the same capacities as anyone else in the world. The only difference between you and a successful person is that the successful person acts upon his world and does not let the world just act upon him.

Forgive yourself your harsh judgments. Forgive others because perhaps they knew no better. Everyone creates their own reality based on their own circumstances and influences in life. There is no such thing as a perfect life. Everyone has baggage. The important thing is how you deal with the baggage that you are carrying.

If you cannot love yourself, forgive yourself and be at one with yourself, the chances are you will not succeed in having successful relationships with others. Look deep into the inner you and discover even the most painful of content. Let it rise to the surface, analyse it, cherish the lesson that may be contained within it and then let it go.

Create new realities for yourself based on what you love about you, the things you are best suited for and what your passions are in life. Give yourself all the validation you need to restore the belief that you can be and you will be. Once you restore this self-confidence you will find that the only limiting factor is your own imagination.

Listen in to our recorded show on Mind, Body and Soul and find out more about how you can learn to let go and forgive yourself and others.

Move forward and upward … the sky is the limit.

Namaste

Dr. Venerina Conti & Coach Steve Toth

http://www.venerinaconti.com/ – Available for Email or Live consultations
http://www.villavalview/ – Holistic Retreat

Congratulations Richard...

Hello friends and listeners of Real Coaching Radio,

For those of you who know me and have been following my posts lately, you will know that I am now collaborating with Real Coaching Radio and co-hosting the International Mind, Body & Soul show, along with Coach Steve Toth, that goes out live every Thursday at 3pm GMT, 9am MST.

Well, today I’m not here to talk to you about our mind, body and soul show, although I would like to remind everyone to tune in for today’s topic: “I’m not good enough”. The question is .... “Says who”?

Today I am posting because I am Honoured and Privileged to make a long awaited announcement.

Drum roll……….


One of my very dear friends, Mr Richard Brinton has launched his new book “The Slavers”, which is already taking the literary world by storm.

The Slavers is not for the faint of heart, for sure, but it fulfils the promise of an adventure that sails right into the heart of the reader. It will keep you wanting to find out more as the characters come alive and enact the scenes, in your mind, as if you were watching a movie.

It is this very individualised style of writing that makes Richard’s book “The Slavers” a book that you will not be able to put down. Love, intrigue, sensuality, exotic tones and capturing moments across high tides, that lead to foreign lands, is Richard’s own unique recipe for what is set to be the next best seller in 2008.

Want to find out more? Got any questions you would like to ask Richard?

Then come join us on a journey that takes us back in time ....to the days of the slave trade and life as we will see it through the eyes of the author. Tune in to Real Coaching Radio on Wednesday 14th November at 3pm GMT, 8am MST, and listen to our exclusive interview with Richard Brinton himself.

..... And .... Real Coaching Radio and I will give a FREE copy of the first volume of Napoleon Hill's "Think and Grow Rich" to each and every reader and/or listener who can tell us who is featured on the cover of Richard's book. So check it out, send me a note "here" and grab your copy while it's still FREE.

Remember, after the show, tune into Joe Buccheri and our partners at TGAMM FM.

Have a wonderful week!!!

Namaste

Venerina

Mind, Body & Soul - "Being Awake"

Good Evening Readers & listeners,

The Trans-Atlantic Mind, Body & Soul show, on Thursday 31st October, at Real Coaching Radio, had as its central theme the topic of “Being Awake”.

The first question that Host Coach Steve Toth and myself Co-Host Drª Venerina Conti tried to address was: “Who are you”?

We are launching a challenge to you, our listeners. How many of you out there can actually answer the question: “Who are you”? … Are you how you identify yourself in your societal role? Are you who you envisage yourself to be as defined by others? Have you lost track of who you are?

Regardless of your answer, whoever you are is a very deep and personal matter but we all share one common trait, our souls derive from the same place … from the One and only Conscious Creative being.

Egdar Cayce believed that our soul’s purpose for being here, in the physical being, is to learn, grow and develop so it may earn it’s place next to the creature. We are all born with the same potential for being. We all have our innate connection to our spirit and that of the Universal Being.

Somehow though, we lose this sense of connection as we grow older due to whatever may influence us such as: educational systems, cultural integration, societal stereotyping and so forth. It takes for something drastic to happen in one’s life for the spiritual awakening to re-occur and for us to, once again, be in touch with our Inner Self and the Higher Being.

It all seems to be about extremes rather than integration. Some people experience the separate duality of spiritualism and the physical. Some people only experience either one or the other. For a person to be whole and complete it is necessary to find a means of integrating the two extremes in our modern world. This can be done by focusing ourselves and giving equal attention to all parts of who we are. The rewards are phenomenal. Don’t wait for something drastic to happen to you before you awaken.

Life is not a survival. Life does not have to a be hard. Life is for creating and experiencing. We are the sole creators of us, of our own circumstances and the world we surround ourselves with. Change requires action on our part. If we do nothing, nothing will happen.

We all construe our own realities but the truth is that there is no one singular absolute reality. There is no one singular absolute truth. There are multiple realities and multiple potential realities that we all have the abilities to create. The only limiting factor in creating the you and the life that you want is you and your imagination. How far are you prepared to go? How much are you prepared to put into it? Are you willing to face your own fears in order to create a new reality?

As long as we are alive, as long as we have desire to and as long as we are willing to, we can change anything and everything around us. If you cannot do it on your own then you could seek the guidance of a professional Coach.

Real Coaching Radio offers 7 Professional Coaches in 7 Professional areas of Life Balancing. Email Coach Steve Toth at realcoachingradio@msn.com for more information.

Namaste until next week

Venerina
http://www.villavalview.com/

Real Coaching Radio - Broadcasts

Mind, Body & Soul – Relationships

On Thursday 20th September, Real Coaching Radio devoted its shows to relationships. At 8am MST, 3pm GMT, the trans-Atlantic Mind, Body & Soul show was hosted by Coach Steve Toth and myself, Dr Venerina Conti. We were joined in the studio by Luke Kenneth Casson Leighton, calling in from Scotland whilst we looked at the underlying theme of communication in relationships.

The questions we posed were: “Are current relationships the product of old habits dieing hard”?, “Is there a lack of sufficient connection between people, on a deeper level, which over time kills communication and the relationship itself”?, “How does our upbringing and our parent’s behaviour influence the way we are towards, and with, others”?, “Does the physical get in the way of the internal connection between people”?, “Has sex become the be all and end all in our society today”?,

My question to you, right now is: “How much of the mind, body and soul is in your relationship”?

I live in Portuguese territory and there is a wonderful Portuguese phrase that says: “Falando entende-se”, which essentially means that by “speaking” people can understand each other. This is what Coach Steve and I were trying to put across to our listeners the importance of conversation, dialogue, communication. Whether that dialogue be internal with one’s self or with another person, it is of the utmost importance if we wish to express ourselves clearly and concisely. It is an essential element for being understood, for making wrongs right and for more wholly integrated into a communicative world.

At 1pm MST, 8pm GMT, Coach Steve Toth was joined in the studio by Dr Ken and the topic of relationships took new heights. Coach Steve introduced us to the concept of the 9 levels of a relationship between potential lovers. Listen in and see how many items you can check off the list within your relationship. If you are thinking of starting a new relationship or if you are looking for a new partner maybe this would be beneficial in helping you to understand the differences there are between men and women.

As Dr John Gray quite rightfully pointed out to us with his famous book, “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus”, each gender sees, hears, feels and views things in a different way. Just what is this way? Coach Steve and Dr Ken offered some fresh insights that everyone should pay attention to.

It does not matter where your relationship is right now. If you were in love with your partner once but the conversation has run dry it is not too late to make those little changes that could enhance your partnership and take it back to where it once was. If you feel you cannot find a new partner or get along with a companion then these two shows are a must for you.

Just remember this one important thing. Know yourself first because only when you achieve that can you truly begin to know others.

Namaste

Venerina

Live Show - Mind, Body and Soul

Well Ladies and Gentleman, Real Coaching Radio is proud to announce that the first Trans-Atlantic, International Show- Mind, Body & Soul, was broadcast today , Thursday 13th September at 3pm GMT.

Despite initial technical hiccups, which we apologise for but they were totally beyond our control, the show ran smoothly and has already received tremendous positive feedback globally.

Host Coach Steve and myself, Co-Host Venerina, started off by introducing ourselves to our listeners so they could learn a little bit more about us.

We then went on to give the listeners an insight into how the Law of Attraction or the Secret really work with a practical example of how Coach Steve and I met. We talked about how circumstances brought us together, not through just putting out thoughts in to the Universe and waiting for something to happen but by practical input, strategic moving on our behalf and most of all our connection to others.

Thinking and wanting something, alone, is not enough to, actually, achieve it. Although positive mental attitude is a necessity for facing adversities in a productive way. It alone is not enough either. Some sort of action is needed on our behalf.

We somehow need to set the wheels in motion to get the ball rolling. Now that can be anything from talking to someone else, letting others know what your goals, desires and dreams are. It may be taking the small, initial, steps that will drive you a little closer to your desired goal. It may be just connecting with others.

One thing I have learnt, for sure, in life is that you can never know enough people. Remember that people know people who in turn know other people and sometimes, in fact more often than not, it is not what you know but who know.

The questions we addressed that we are attempting to get our listeners to think about are: “Do you tend to your soul enough”?, “Just how positive are you”?, “What do you value the most in life”?, “Are you following a path with heart”?

Most of all: “What happens when you have achieved everything there is to achieve”?, or as Steve put it: “What’s next”?

If you have any answers for us or if you would like to share your experiences with us, we would dearly love to hear from you.

So please, leave your comments, call the show or come and chat with us. We will be live every Thursday afternoon between 3 and 4pm GMT on Real Coaching Radio.

Instructions for Real Coaching Radio European Listeners

The following information is for our European listeners:

We would like to inform you that it has been brought to our attention that the numbers listed for calling into the radio broadcast are blocked to European listeners. Therefore, we would ask you kindly to take a few different steps that will enable you to interact with us during the live broadcast. All you have to do is go to: NowLive and create a free account. Once you have signed up you need to click on edit profile. If you scroll down, on the left hand side, you will find a box labelled cell # … In the space provided, you need to add a 10 digit US style telephone number. It does not matter that the number is fake.

Next, you will need to download and create an account with the Gizmo project. Click on Gizmo Banner below to go directly to the page:

Finally, you need to go back to the nowlive.com front page when Real Coaching Radio is live. Click on the Real Coaching Radio link which can be found in the “On the air” section. That will take you straight through to our broadcasting studio. Congratulations if you got this far you can now chat with us!!! Ok, if you would like to take it one step further, click on the “Call the show” button. You will notice that on the bottom right hand side a box will appear with call in options. Click on the link that says “Call using Google Talk”. When the page loads, you will see on the right hand side the gizmo project number to call the show from. Copy and paste this number in your Gizmo Project call box and don’t forget to click on the green telephone icon so that it actually dials the number!!!

Once your call is answered by NowLive.com, you will hear a set of options. Once prompted to do so, using your dial pad, click on # 2. You will then be asked to enter the six digit show ID, which in our case is: 226305. After you have entered the show ID, you need to click on # 1.

Guess what? …. You should now be live with us in the studio. All we ask now is that you talk to us!!! We can’t wait to meet you!!!

News Flash

New International Radio Show Starts on September 13, 2007

8:00 AM MST, 3pm - 4pm GMT,

Mind, Body & Soul

Holistic Psychologist & Freelance writer, Venerina Conti, the creator of VC Designs Ltd, has teamed up with dear friend Coach Steve Toth, of Real Coaching Radio, to collaborate on a European Broadcast show Mind, Body & Soul, which will be a journey of discovery into the realms of what it means to be an integrated and whole human being in today’s society.

Mind, Body & Soul will broadcast live across the Internet every Thursday afternoon between 3pm – 4pm GMT, for our European friends and 8am -9am MST time for our US friends. Of course, those of you who are not early birds can still listen to the show outside live broadcasting hours as the show will be recorded, archived and available on the Internet 24/7.

You don’t need to download anything special to listen in. It’s as easy as clicking on the logo above, opening the webpage and then clicking on the play button. You don’t need to have any fancy tools to chat with us. If you really wish to, you can sign up free with http://www.nowlive.com/ and be a direct part of the action.

Also, drop by and introduce yourself and or comment on our show in the Real Coaching Moment Blog. Venerina and I will look forward to meeting you.

We will attempt to demystify the realms of Mind, Body & Soul to bring you a more holistic and balanced way of living healthier in all realms of the psyche, the spirit and the body. A healthy spirit is a healthy mind and a healthy mind is a healthy body. When all parts function in harmony life can exceed all your expectations. Only then, can you become who you always wanted to be.

Have you ever had Extraordinary Human Experience? Have you ever had a near death experience which has profoundly changed your life? Are you intuitively more aware than the average person you know? Do you know that we all have the same potentials?

Did “The Secret” leave you wanting? We will tell you why? We will reveal the truth behind the “Law of Attraction”.

Step on board and fasten your seatbelt for a ride of a lifetime.

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