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Wednesday, 17 January 2018
Trust in Love ...
When everything, finally, makes perfect sense we no longer feel sorrow, nor anger nor regret. We leave behind fears, doubts and insecurities. Like a snake, we shed our old skin so a new one can take its place. We drop the masks that have served to protect us and we surrender the need to be, constantly, defensive. When we do that, we have no reason to fight each other for anything because when all negative energies are cleared, all that remains is pure, unconditional, love and kindness, gratitude and compassion ...
We realise that everything we have been through and everyone we have ever encountered brought us to where we are now ... and where we are now is exactly where we're meant to be.
From here, with no more mental, emotional or spiritual chains to bind us, we can only move forward.
Where this new cycle will take us - nobody knows - but with such an unconditional trust in love, anywhere will be just perfect because it is meant to be
Tuesday, 23 June 2015
Your dream life!
If you do, then: Congratulations to you! It's fantastic that you're living the life you dreamt of. You've already achieved more than many people will ever do throughout their entire lifetime. Most people will only ever dream of being paid to do what they love.
It’s wonderful to see someone in such a privileged position showing gratitude for it and it is a privilege. Sadly, and especially nowadays in the midst of a world crisis, bills and responsibilities are preventing a lot of people from taking the plunge and just following their passion in life. Needs must - as they say. So, necessities have to precede pleasure. Many people also let insecurities and other peoples' negative opinions stand between their dream and what “has to be done” in accordance with a flawed system, in an economically driven society, that makes “having money” essential.
Yet, money should never be a motivating factor. If you love something and have a passion for it, getting paid to do it is just a bonus. It’s the icing on the cake. Realistically speaking, if you don’t have a passion for something, no matter how much money you get paid for it, you will never do it well because your heart will never be in it.
I’ve been writing online for over a decade and I hosted numerous radio shows online and in real time. I’ve volunteered around the world and never earned a penny from any of it. Why? because what I felt I had to say to others far outweighs the economic reward I could have ever gained from it. Letters of gratitude from people I’ve never met can’t be financially valued and nobody can put a price tag on the difference you make in someone else’s life.
However, we do live in a real world where bills and necessities must. So, like I said before, you are in a wonderfully privileged position and hats off to you. Well done!
On the other hand, did you answer no to my questions above? If you did, then perhaps you need a little coaching from a professional. Allow me to give you some guidance on how to improve your life, achieve your goals and live the life you've always imagined yourself to be living.
Life begins now. You can't change what has been but you can write the future.
Friday, 11 May 2012
Life can be rebooted!
It’s been a while! And, well ... life certainly has taken a different turn for me. After 10 years of living on paradise island, working 6 days a week 12 hours a day and squeezing in a million hobbies, I find myself in Spain with no fixed abode, unemployed, unplugged and yet, eerily calm about an unknown future that has yet to unfold because I have yet to write it.
My feet haven’t really touched the ground since I got here and yet, I seem to have found enough quiet, solitary, moments to reflect.
In this new situation I find myself in, it’s become more and more apparent to me that when we have nothing to lose, we can only gain “something.” When there’s nothing left to be taken from us, we can only make new acquisitions and create new situations. When there’s nothing left to destroy we can only create something new. Yet, in reality, aside from death or theft, nothing is really ever taken from us. We choose to give things up. We choose to walk away from people, places, jobs; even our lives.
Maybe it’s a mid-life crisis, maybe it’s a fantasy or a calling but I walked away from my life (as I knew it) in search of something. Nobody forced me to. Life didn’t make me do it. Life didn’t give me a set of ultimatums. All I had before me was a set of choices. We all have them, and some are more painful than others to make because of what we leave behind. None the less, they are still our choices. For better or for worse, we need to take responsibility for our choices and stand by them.
Everything in life is a risk and if we don’t take risks, we will never know the outcome. We’ll be forever wondering: “What if ...” I would hope that each one of us knows exactly what we have, but we’ll never know what awaits us unless we’re willing to take a blind leap of faith into the unknown.
When we have nothing and manage to put our fears aside, we potentially stand to gain everything. All it takes is a strong sense of belief, persistence, perseverance, hard work and a healthy dose of optimism and faith. It also helps to have kind souls in your life who lift your spirit, look after you physically, mentally and emotionally, and make you feel loved. That, in my humble opinion, is the true essence of life; being with others and sharing with others.
I know there are some people out there who may think they have no-one, but the truth is we are NEVER alone. Solitude is a state we create. If we don’t see anyone around us, it’s because we’re not looking closely enough. It’s not the world’s fault. It’s not the circumstances we find ourselves in. We choose to wear blinkers and, until we remove them, we will never be able to open ourselves up to the world around us.
When we get down to the nitty, gritty of it life really is very simple and we can live very well with the simplest of things; food, shelter and good company. We over-complicate life because we’re constantly chasing something or other. We expend so much time and energy chasing the next big dream, the next big pay check, the next exotic dream trip, we fail to stop and really appreciate the simplicity of life.
I’ve always said that the older we get, the harder it is to break out of our comfort zone and be challenged by something new because we emotionally allow our fears to cloud our vision of potentials and possibilities.
With my move, I’ve proved to myself, that even at the age of almost 44, it’s possible to just walk away from everything and start a new life. How this life will turn out is a matter of time and my willingness to dedicate myself to it. I realise that if I was married and had children, it might not be so easy to change life, but I also believe that a family, like good friends, should be a compliment and not a burden. Hence, a change of life might be a little more difficult but certainly not impossible.
Life really is what we make it; simple or complex, it’s all our own doing.
Now, more than ever, I am consciously aware of how life is like a blank computer screen. We choose what to write, how to write it and when to write it. We can even choose not to write anything at all or we can just write a few lines of nonsense. Yet, in the simplicity of choosing between writing or not writing, with computers, we find ourselves confronted with the dilemmas of which of the million fonts to use, what size the font should be, what colour to write in, how many words we should write, what to write about, how to express our thoughts and the list goes on - and this is before we’ve even started typing.
In this nothingness that my life has, temporarily, become it’s very clear to me how the only time I hold myself back and stop myself from making a move forward is when I look back at “what was” instead of “being here now” and plainly accepting “what is.”
I, like anyone of you out there, am limited only by my memories, my imagination, my creativity, my motivation, determination, my perseverance and my lack of enthusiasm for doing anything. Every new day, and its outcome, is my own doing. My procrastination, my advancement, my whole life and its direction revolve around how much I am prepared to put into it, what I choose to do, how I choose to go about it and how focused I am.
Life is a bit like a computer ... you really can reboot at any moment in time.
Thursday, 25 June 2009
Who am I? (Part 1)
Yet, most people have great difficulty answering it.
Most people reply to the question who am I? with the labels they have acquired throughout their lifetime.
They primarily identify themselves with the roles they play in relationship to others. They use definitions like: I’m a father. I’m a sister. I’m a mother. I’m John’s friend, I’m an uncle. I’m a wife.
They define themselves in accordance with the role they play in society; i.e. the job or vocation they have; I’m a writer. I’m a barman. I’m a secretary. I’m a fireman.
They describe their current status with phrases like: I’m unemployed. I have a job. I’m a student. I’m a stay at home mum. I’m a struggling artist. I’m successful, I’m poor and so on. They adhere to a cultural group by saying: I’m Italian, I’m British, I’m Arabic, I’m German, I’m Chinese and so on.
They may even go on to explain their environmental backgrounds by saying: I live in London. I live in Paris. I lived in the United States when I was younger. I spent a lot of time in the Middle East. I have travelled to Egypt and Cyprus or wherever. They define what religious or spiritual sect they belong to by saying I’m a Catholic, I’m Jewish, I’m a Muslim, I’m a Buddhist, I’m a spiritualist.
By listing items such as those mentioned above, people are consciously or subconsciously recognising how important these factors are in describing who they are. Yet, they are nothing more than labels.
Aside from these labels, people also use descriptive qualities to define themselves. They list characteristics of their personality like: I’m a happy person. I have a nervous disposition. I’m not assertive enough. I’m introvert. I’m extrovert. I’m very patient. They list physiological aspects of themselves such as: I’m unattractive. I’m overweight. I’m pretty. I’m tall. I’m short. I have long hair. I have green eyes.
They list their behavioural qualities like: I’m organised, I’m unorganised, I’m untidy and so on. They may even add what pleases them like: I enjoy walking. I collect stamps. I go to the beach every weekend. I like the sea. Similarly, they may express what displeases them like I hate the cold. I never go to the beach. I don’t like queuing.
Whatever descriptions and labels are used, they only define a person according to their beliefs about who they think they are.
These beliefs are based on years of accumulated experiences and learning, environmental and societal influences. They come from an accepted understanding of the individuals’ capabilities, limitations, likes and dislikes.
Yet, most of the time, these beliefs are the product of how we think we are or how we think others see us.
(Extracted from: The Power to Heal is Yours - Be your best friend, not your worst enemy - A Practical Guide to Self-Transformation by Venerina Conti)
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Thursday, 17 January 2008
Farewell and thank you
Dear friends and listeners,
As if this wasn’t enough, I am still in the phase of finishing writing my books and my Masters Degree. For the latter, I have to start writing my Thesis, which is also in book format. The research alone requires enormous amounts of my time.
I have very much enjoyed my time spent at Real Coaching Radio and thank Coach Steve for letting me run riot in his show. My thanks to my friends at TGAMM as well for their support.
Friday, 30 November 2007
Mind, Body & Soul - Judgment and Criticism
Host Coach Steve Toth and myself Co-Host DrÂȘ Venerina Conti talked about Criticism and Judgment. What they are. What their distinction is. How they are defined and how we use them against ourselves, others and our relationships towards others.
Not all criticism is bad. There is such a thing as constructive criticism, which can be beneficial for our own self-improvement.
When we persistently stand in judgment of ourselves and persistently criticise ourselves we become our own worst enemies. We stop seeing the wood for the trees. We run ourselves into the ground until one day we find we have no self-confidence left. So, we retreat into our comfort zone and avoid anything challenging.
Do we judge others because of our own fears? Do we criticise others because it makes us feel better about who we are or because it makes us feel superior to another human being? The truth is strip away what we do, our roles in society, our status and the whole of the physical world, we are all equals.
Our souls are pure love. Only when we acknowledge this love for ourselves will we find that we no longer need to judge or criticise because everything we need to feel good about ourselves is contained within us already. When we love ourselves, we can love others and be accepting of them the way they are.
The time and energy that we spend on judging and criticising is misplaced time and energy that we could be spending on something constructive, creative and productive that pushes us forward in our lives.
How do you react to judgment and criticism? Find out how you can deal with it without letting it affect you. Listen to our live broadcast from Thursday 29th November on Mind, Body and Soul at Real Coaching Radio.
Until next week,
Namaste
Dr. Venerina Conti, (Holistic Psychologist) and Coach Steve Toth (Executive Director)
www.villavalview.com
Friday, 9 November 2007
Mind, Body & Soul - "I'm not good enough"
Where does that syndrome come from? Are you willing to find out? Are you ready to face it and move on?
You do realize that the only person stopping you from becoming who you want to be and doing what you want to do in life is you, don’t you?
Are you one of the millions of people who think that they are not good enough just because you think you are not pretty enough or clever enough or thin enough or whatever fears, doubts and issues that may lay secretly in the back of your mind and ingrained in your soul?
Have you ever stopped to really think about whether these complexes are truly yours or whether they are just others’ opinions that you have come to accept as reality. Remember, the more someone says something to you, the more you think about it, the more you think about it, the more you believe it and soon, before you know it, you have acquired a new reality in your subconscious upon which you base your actions and create the world around you.
This is not who you are though. Who you are is a spiritual being with the same capacities as anyone else in the world. The only difference between you and a successful person is that the successful person acts upon his world and does not let the world just act upon him.
Forgive yourself your harsh judgments. Forgive others because perhaps they knew no better. Everyone creates their own reality based on their own circumstances and influences in life. There is no such thing as a perfect life. Everyone has baggage. The important thing is how you deal with the baggage that you are carrying.
If you cannot love yourself, forgive yourself and be at one with yourself, the chances are you will not succeed in having successful relationships with others. Look deep into the inner you and discover even the most painful of content. Let it rise to the surface, analyse it, cherish the lesson that may be contained within it and then let it go.
Create new realities for yourself based on what you love about you, the things you are best suited for and what your passions are in life. Give yourself all the validation you need to restore the belief that you can be and you will be. Once you restore this self-confidence you will find that the only limiting factor is your own imagination.
Listen in to our recorded show on Mind, Body and Soul and find out more about how you can learn to let go and forgive yourself and others.
Move forward and upward … the sky is the limit.
Namaste
Dr. Venerina Conti & Coach Steve Toth
http://www.venerinaconti.com/ – Available for Email or Live consultations
http://www.villavalview/ – Holistic Retreat
Thursday, 8 November 2007
Congratulations Richard...
For those of you who know me and have been following my posts lately, you will know that I am now collaborating with Real Coaching Radio and co-hosting the International Mind, Body & Soul show, along with Coach Steve Toth, that goes out live every Thursday at 3pm GMT, 9am MST.
Well, today I’m not here to talk to you about our mind, body and soul show, although I would like to remind everyone to tune in for today’s topic: “I’m not good enough”. The question is .... “Says who”?
Today I am posting because I am Honoured and Privileged to make a long awaited announcement.
Drum roll……….
One of my very dear friends, Mr Richard Brinton has launched his new book “The Slavers”, which is already taking the literary world by storm.
The Slavers is not for the faint of heart, for sure, but it fulfils the promise of an adventure that sails right into the heart of the reader. It will keep you wanting to find out more as the characters come alive and enact the scenes, in your mind, as if you were watching a movie.
It is this very individualised style of writing that makes Richard’s book “The Slavers” a book that you will not be able to put down. Love, intrigue, sensuality, exotic tones and capturing moments across high tides, that lead to foreign lands, is Richard’s own unique recipe for what is set to be the next best seller in 2008.
Want to find out more? Got any questions you would like to ask Richard?
Then come join us on a journey that takes us back in time ....to the days of the slave trade and life as we will see it through the eyes of the author. Tune in to Real Coaching Radio on Wednesday 14th November at 3pm GMT, 8am MST, and listen to our exclusive interview with Richard Brinton himself.
..... And .... Real Coaching Radio and I will give a FREE copy of the first volume of Napoleon Hill's "Think and Grow Rich" to each and every reader and/or listener who can tell us who is featured on the cover of Richard's book. So check it out, send me a note "here" and grab your copy while it's still FREE.
Remember, after the show, tune into Joe Buccheri and our partners at TGAMM FM.
Have a wonderful week!!!
Namaste
Venerina
Thursday, 25 October 2007
How do you find your passion in life?
It is so good to be back at Real Coaching Radio. If you were listening to the show, you may have heard that I just spent 3 weeks in a Holistic Retreat in Sicily recharging my batteries. It was truly a slice of Paradise.
From next year, in collaboration with Real Coaching Radio, myself, DrÂȘ Venerina Conti and Coach Steve Toth are going to be organising some spiritual/Motivational/Personal Growth events. If anyone wants to see what I was waking up to everyday and get a feel for the place, then please check out this website:
http://www.villavalview.com/
If you are interested in taking part in any of the events we will be organising there, in 2008 or 2009, then please do not hesitate to contact Coach Steve Toth or myself DrÂȘ Venerina Conti.
First of all, we would like to apologise to the people in the chat room during the live broadcast. Due to technical problems, we were unable to use the chat facilities and answer your questions there.
Today’s topic at Real Coaching Radio was: “How does a person find their passion in life”.
The leading questions posed were:
Why do people give up on their dreams early on in life?
Why are people so unwilling to look inside themselves?
Why do people sell out?
What is the cost of giving up on personal passions?
Where does the motivation come from to follow a passion?
Why are people afraid to come out of their comfort zones?
Why do people become resigned and cynical?
How can people turn negative into positive and use sexual energy in a Creative way?
Some of the answers addressed issues like parental influences, societal stereotyping, desire of seeking fame and glory and pressing financial demands, people find themselves in, along with people’s own fears that limit their potential for growth.
People sell out for all kinds of reasons. The essential thing is to recognize the reason and confront it. People can make up all kinds of excuses like no time, no money, no energy but the truth is that we are responsible for the world we create around us. Our thoughts and actions are what make up our world.
He who has no time will make it for what he believes in. He who has no money will find a way of making it if it means realising his dreams and he who has no energy can learn to create it. There are no real excuses. They are shadows we cast over ourselves in order to hide our lack of will and our fears.
He who wants something will always find a way to achieve it or someone that can help him learn how to achieve it. Life is about moving out of your comfort zone and taking risks and as Brian Tracey said: “What’s the worst that could happen?”. Keep answering that question and you’ll find there is no worst that could ever possibly happen.
Ultimately though, the only way you can find your passion in life is by asking yourself the question: “Am I truly happy”?. If the answer is: “No”, then you should look inside yourself for the answer as to why you are not. Is it the job?, Is it a relationship?, Is it the general circumstances in your life? Then think back to a time when you were happy and think about what use to make you happy at that time. Attempt to find out what you were doing then that is now missing in your life.
Meditation is an excellent means to connecting with the self and making self discoveries that have previously been suppressed or ignored. When we stand outside the issue, we can see it more clearly.
Listen in to today’s recorded show: http://www.venerinaconti.com/Realcoachingradio.html
Namaste
Venerina
Saturday, 22 September 2007
Thursday, 13 September 2007
Live Show - Mind, Body and Soul
Despite initial technical hiccups, which we apologise for but they were totally beyond our control, the show ran smoothly and has already received tremendous positive feedback globally.
Host Coach Steve and myself, Co-Host Venerina, started off by introducing ourselves to our listeners so they could learn a little bit more about us.
We then went on to give the listeners an insight into how the Law of Attraction or the Secret really work with a practical example of how Coach Steve and I met. We talked about how circumstances brought us together, not through just putting out thoughts in to the Universe and waiting for something to happen but by practical input, strategic moving on our behalf and most of all our connection to others.
Thinking and wanting something, alone, is not enough to, actually, achieve it. Although positive mental attitude is a necessity for facing adversities in a productive way. It alone is not enough either. Some sort of action is needed on our behalf.
We somehow need to set the wheels in motion to get the ball rolling. Now that can be anything from talking to someone else, letting others know what your goals, desires and dreams are. It may be taking the small, initial, steps that will drive you a little closer to your desired goal. It may be just connecting with others.
One thing I have learnt, for sure, in life is that you can never know enough people. Remember that people know people who in turn know other people and sometimes, in fact more often than not, it is not what you know but who know.
The questions we addressed that we are attempting to get our listeners to think about are: “Do you tend to your soul enough”?, “Just how positive are you”?, “What do you value the most in life”?, “Are you following a path with heart”?
Most of all: “What happens when you have achieved everything there is to achieve”?, or as Steve put it: “What’s next”?
If you have any answers for us or if you would like to share your experiences with us, we would dearly love to hear from you.
So please, leave your comments, call the show or come and chat with us. We will be live every Thursday afternoon between 3 and 4pm GMT on Real Coaching Radio.
Instructions for Real Coaching Radio European Listeners
We would like to inform you that it has been brought to our attention that the numbers listed for calling into the radio broadcast are blocked to European listeners. Therefore, we would ask you kindly to take a few different steps that will enable you to interact with us during the live broadcast. All you have to do is go to: NowLive and create a free account. Once you have signed up you need to click on edit profile. If you scroll down, on the left hand side, you will find a box labelled cell # … In the space provided, you need to add a 10 digit US style telephone number. It does not matter that the number is fake.
Next, you will need to download and create an account with the Gizmo project. Click on Gizmo Banner below to go directly to the page:
Finally, you need to go back to the nowlive.com front page when Real Coaching Radio is live. Click on the Real Coaching Radio link which can be found in the “On the air” section. That will take you straight through to our broadcasting studio. Congratulations if you got this far you can now chat with us!!! Ok, if you would like to take it one step further, click on the “Call the show” button. You will notice that on the bottom right hand side a box will appear with call in options. Click on the link that says “Call using Google Talk”. When the page loads, you will see on the right hand side the gizmo project number to call the show from. Copy and paste this number in your Gizmo Project call box and don’t forget to click on the green telephone icon so that it actually dials the number!!!
Once your call is answered by NowLive.com, you will hear a set of options. Once prompted to do so, using your dial pad, click on # 2. You will then be asked to enter the six digit show ID, which in our case is: 226305. After you have entered the show ID, you need to click on # 1.
Guess what? …. You should now be live with us in the studio. All we ask now is that you talk to us!!! We can’t wait to meet you!!!
News Flash
New International Radio Show Starts on September 13, 2007
Mind, Body & Soul will broadcast live across the Internet every Thursday afternoon between 3pm – 4pm GMT, for our European friends and 8am -9am MST time for our US friends. Of course, those of you who are not early birds can still listen to the show outside live broadcasting hours as the show will be recorded, archived and available on the Internet 24/7.
You don’t need to download anything special to listen in. It’s as easy as clicking on the logo above, opening the webpage and then clicking on the play button. You don’t need to have any fancy tools to chat with us. If you really wish to, you can sign up free with http://www.nowlive.com/ and be a direct part of the action.
Also, drop by and introduce yourself and or comment on our show in the Real Coaching Moment Blog. Venerina and I will look forward to meeting you.
We will attempt to demystify the realms of Mind, Body & Soul to bring you a more holistic and balanced way of living healthier in all realms of the psyche, the spirit and the body. A healthy spirit is a healthy mind and a healthy mind is a healthy body. When all parts function in harmony life can exceed all your expectations. Only then, can you become who you always wanted to be.
Have you ever had Extraordinary Human Experience? Have you ever had a near death experience which has profoundly changed your life? Are you intuitively more aware than the average person you know? Do you know that we all have the same potentials?
Did “The Secret” leave you wanting? We will tell you why? We will reveal the truth behind the “Law of Attraction”.
Step on board and fasten your seatbelt for a ride of a lifetime.